Stories Behind Social Media Conversations

I wrote this blog when I saw a teenager upset about a negative comment he had received on a video he had created and posted on Social Media. My default reaction was to question the teenager, ” So why are you on social media and do you think it is a good place for you to be on? ”

However, I changed my view and this is how I think now. The learnings are not just for children but for anyone who creates.

You create something, an article, a video, a podcast and you put it out in Social Media. You have put your work out in the world and given people a chance to judge you, like you, question you and yes, even dislike you. If this is you, well done because not everyone has the courage to create and share.

When your creation is judged in a negative way, it hurts.

But here is what a creator must keep in mind.

*The arenas for vitriolic “feedback” are proliferating: online commentary, blogs, talk radio, reality TV.  Harsh commentary, malicious attacks , and anonymous venting in these forums are common, catering to readers cheers or jeers.

What I am hoping is that we can learn to make a distinction. What is the intent of the commentary?

Are the commenters focussed on saying something they think is clever or biting or attention- getting. They are just using you the creator of the content as a punching bag.

Is this commentary about the work you have done or a way for the commentator to grab attention?

What I am hoping is that we can learn to make a distinction and more importantly teach our kids, for whom social media is what talking was for us was when we were their age.

There is no running away for them from Social Media.So, why not we learn and at the same time teach our kids how to use this language. There is a story behind the comment. You just have to learn to understand those stories.

*Source: Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well Book by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen

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